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Draw the Chat-boundary when She Gets Married...

 
Gentlemen,

When your female friend gets married, no matter how close you guys were, or what you shared, respect her husband, refrain from too much Okra soup, so as to not allow your destiny to be sliding into, building a tent and living in her DM.

Even when the last thing on your mind is physical or emotional intimacy, it's advisable to keep non-essential private interactions with a married friend at reasonable minimum or just the essentials—you can't be chatting up a married friend, every other day for long periods na—your mother didn't give birth to a sheep!
 
I guess this applies to females and their married male friends too. 

This is not suggesting that married people should drop or totally block out all previous friends of opposite gender, this is saying; you can't be chatting them up or relating like that, as it used to be.

This post is inspired by what I observed somewhere on IG: a young man's convo on a married woman's post, it was nothing overtly malicious but it was hard to separate from being quite inappropriate, to say it mildly.

I am not anybody's template for relationship but as a rule, my married friends are off my leisure chat list, except for occasional checking up on, handling of important matters and the like.

Then something else, there's a new reality—Social media has come to hold a tangible place in relations in our world; we hear of companies that check the social media accounts of prospective employees, to snoop for some indication of their personality; many brands handle customers here and exchange cash on social media; people even send other people to rate a prospective spouse via their online profile and more.

Social media is not that trivial: it matters! So, If you are married, kindly put it on your profile; this may not apply or be necessary for other levels of relationship.

We already know that there will be people who will ignore your 'unavailable status' to still try their luck but just cross your Tees and dot your Aiis. Inugo? 


Dedicated to Chi.

Photo credit: Law and Meditation Office of Kelly Chang

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